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01 September 2007 |
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The Chief of Police in Bangkok, Thailand has discovered the ultimate punishment for wayward officers: they must wear a pink armband emblazoned with “Hello Kitty,” a cutesy favorite of under-10 girls.
Other punishments have not deterred tardiness, double parking and littering among officers, but acting chief Pongpat Chayaphan believes the armbands will do the trick. “After this policy came out, the police are scared,” he said. “It will be very embarrassing to walk around with Hello Kitty on your arm.”
What’s so bad about a pink armband? This seemingly benign corrective strikes a double-whammy at the heart of manhood. Every man fears being perceived as feminine (pink) and childish (hello Kitty).
Sadly, churchgoing has become a pink armband for many men. It’s a sign of weakness, childishness and femininity.
But churches can break this reputation by intentionally reaching out to men. Christ’s Church of the Valley is one of America’s fastest growing congregations. It sits on a sprawling campus in the northwest Phoenix suburb of Peoria, Arizona. CCV attracts some 12,000 worshippers every weekend to its state-of-the-art facility. It has planted 18 congregations around the world.
What’s it’s secret? Thirteen years ago the leadership of CCV made a policy shift that sent the congregation into growth overdrive. In 1994, CCV decided to target men, age 25-to-45. Since that decision, the church has grown by 20 to 25 percent a year.
A visit to the church’s web site (ccvonline.com) finds men are always mentioned first. Guy pictures and sports images appear on just about every page. Men’s ministry tops the weekly bulletin announcements. This intentional emphasis on men makes guys feel like they’re wanted and needed.
Today, hundreds of athletes from the Phoenix area come to CCV to play on its well-maintained soccer and softball fields. And the church draws many unchurched visitors from its sports leagues. In fact, CCV is known as the “jock church” in Phoenix. Men feel accepted there because it has a reputation as a guy place.
Do women feel slighted with all this attention lavished on men? Apparently not. The Sunday I worshipped at CCV I counted slightly more women than men in the sanctuary. The women I talked to were delighted to attend a church where the men were alive. They felt hopeful that their boys would stay faithful through their teenage years, thanks to the masculine spirit of the congregation.
You don’t need to be a megachurch to reach men. New Life Center in Porterville, CA has been focusing on men by conducting Go for the Guys Sundays twice in the past year. The response from men has been enthusiastic. Pastor Dave Mast says that male visitors are starting to show up out of the blue because they’ve heard it’s a good place for guys. According to Mast, New Life Center’s worship services now attract more men than women.
So what are you waiting for? Declare war on pink armband Christianity. Start targeting men with your worship, classes and outreach. See what God does.
I’m planning a speaking tour of England and Ireland January 25 to February 5, 2008. So far I’ve got one firm engagement: The National Men’s Summit, February 1-3 at Daventry, Northamptonshire. I’m looking for additional opportunities to address groups, particularly pastors and church leaders.
If you have any interest in having David at your church, don’t be shy. I’m looking for places to speak, and a quaint village with a comfortable bed and some Yorkshire pudding might fit the bill. Send me an e-mail and let me know of your interest.
For more information on the National Men's Summit, click here.
To e-mail David about speaking to your church or group, click here.
Researcher Christopher Ducker has written a fascinating paper on the feminization of the church in Great Britain: Disbanded Brothers Has a “Feminised” Church Alienated Men in the UK? He combined statistical research with a poll of 456 Christians and found:
To download the complete report, click here.
Check out national media stories about the struggle to call our congregations back to men. To watch the NBC Nightly News story, click here. To see the church for men story on Fox News Channel, click here.
Also, check out this man-on-the-street video asking men, "Which would you choose, Sports or Church?"
There are some great new blog entries on men and church. Check out the Marshian Chronicles and Dirtbags...Not for the "girly man" which tells the story of a church that meets in a bar.